How will you use Calm Choices?
Choose the option that fits you.
Welcome to Calm Choices
Calm Choices is made by Kind Lemur, publishers of children's books — created to make mealtimes calmer and more manageable for families.
You'll also find links to trusted SEND & neurodiversity organisations in SEND Support — further information and support when you need it.
This is completely normal
Children with food anxiety often accept a favourite meal one week and refuse it the next.
Nothing has gone wrong — it's simply how food anxiety works.
Less choice, less stress
Calm Choices reduces anxiety by limiting choice — and helps you keep a living list of safe meals you can rely on.
Your Safe Meals
Every meal is included to start. Just untick anything that isn't right — you can change this any time.
Pick one calm thing
Which meal?
Pick the kind of meal, then we'll spin two safe choices.
Today's meals
Tap a meal type to choose it. Nothing is picked for you.
This week
Tap a meal to choose it. Each meal is independent.
Shopping list
Safe Meals
Untick anything that isn't right for your child. Everything ticked can appear in a spin or plan.
You're doing brilliantly
Feeding a child with additional needs or food anxiety can be exhausting. Here are a few gentle reminders.
Food anxiety is real
Refusing a meal isn't naughtiness or fussiness — for an anxious child it can feel genuinely unsafe. Accepting a meal one day and not the next is expected, not a setback.
Small wins count
A calm mealtime is a success, even if very little is eaten. Keeping the safe list short and familiar lowers the pressure for everyone.
Where to find more help
If mealtimes are causing distress or affecting growth, speak to your GP, health visitor or a paediatric dietitian. For SEND more broadly, your local authority's Local Offer lists services near you.
SEND & Neurodiversity Support
A few trusted UK organisations, for further information and support when you need it.
Autism
National Autistic SocietyInformation, guidance and support for autistic people and their families. Autism Services DirectoryFind autism-related services and support across the UK. Ambitious about AutismInformation, support and resources for autistic children, young people and their families.SEND & Education
ContactInformation, advice and support for families of disabled children and young people. IPSEAIndependent information and advice about special educational needs and disability in England. SENDIASSFind your local SEND Information, Advice and Support Service.Family & Additional Support
CerebraInformation, advice and support for families of children with brain conditions. NHS — Autism supportNHS information about autism, support and finding further help.These organisations are independent of Calm Choices. Their links are provided as a starting point for information and support. Calm Choices does not provide medical, diagnostic or legal advice.
Remove this from your Safe Meals?
How did it go?
No pressure — every meal is just information.
That's one calmer mealtime
Explore
What are you looking for?
Ask in your own words — we'll find meals from your Calm Choices library.
🔒 We only send the words you type — never your child's name or family details.
What have you got at home?
Tell us the ingredients you have and we'll give you two calm meal choices to spin.
🔒 We only send the ingredients you type or scan — never your child's name or family details.
Point the camera at a barcode
Shopping list
Pick the meals you're shopping for. We'll add up the ingredients and find the cheapest supermarket.
Tap to add or remove foods.